Here’s How to Avoid Rejection and Win More Deals with Your Parents!
I remembered when I asked my lecturer directly about being my guardian for my permission to live in a boarding house.
So, my “weird” college regulations obligate students to find a guardian who lives outside the campus or lives outside the dormitory. It’s kind of stupid, actually. Then, I was giving him a negotiation with what I had given him, like a program for the organization he built and helping him in his work.
He was explaining what he wanted to do and asked me to help him make the program successful.
How I feel about rejection
Then, my mind just crossed a little bit.
Why don’t I ask him for what I need so that we can make mutualism work for the future?
Then I asked him.
“Sir, I kindly want to help you with all the programs, but I have one problem. I need a guardian for my permission to live in a boarding house. So, could you be my guardian so that I can be more productive working on this program?”
The dormitory is pretty uncomfortable, so that’s why I wanted to stay at the boarding house.
Then he answered,
“Hmmmm, I don’t know if I would want to do that or not; we can think about it later. I’m actually more interested if you stay in a dormitory rather than a boarding house.”
The conclusion of that answer is no.
So, I was pretty embarrassed and annoyed at the same time because I didn’t win that deal.
Asking directly leads you to zero deals
Asking directly could lead you to be the one who begs for help rather than really working together with the person you want to work with.
Stop asking directly, like,
“Can I help you with the copywriting in your business?”
“Can you be my mentor?”
“Can I live in your house for a couple of days?”
“Can you lend me 100,000 rupiah?” (a meme from Indonesia, btw.)
You might then wonder why you didn’t get a yes answer, and you might start to hate those people and blame them.
Give more spice!
Don’t be so naive when you want to win a deal or ask a question.
Don’t ask questions like,
“Hey, can I help you in your business? I’m actually good at designing posts for Instagram! It’s free”
Even if it’s free, people would still think that it’s not worth it to spend their time with you.
Negotiate more effectively by giving value that they can’t refuse like this,
“Hey, I just did some research on your business for a couple hours, and I was pretty interested in what you did there.
How you design your posts and how you persuade people to buy your product I have actually made a lot of designs that might help you improve your business
*give them the result of your work*.
I just wanted some feedback, and if you are interested, you can ask me for more! Thank you!”
You are not actually giving them free stuff.
You are digging up some opportunities there.
If they are interested, they might contact you again and throw some money at you.
If they are not interested in what you do, at least you get some feedback or the opportunity to find a problem with your designs and keep improving.
Transform your questions!
Start by asking in a smart way.
Win your negotiation with your parents if you are trying to find a better college or quit college.
“Mom, I don’t like this university; can I go to another university?”
Spice them up!
“Mom, I’ve been facing some challenges with my studies at this university due to certain regulations that affect my learning.
I’ve done some research and found a better university to be more effective in my studies, which could lead to better academic results and make it easier for us to stay in touch regularly. I would appreciate your support in achieving this.
Are you open to discussing how we can make this happen together?”
If it’s too formal, copy and paste it to ChatGPT and then use the prompt
“make it simpler” or “use simple words”
Now, your mom might be interested in listening to you.
So try it out! Practice it!
Start practicing!
It is not easy to win some negotiations sometimes.
We fell into asking directly without giving them some spice in our questions. Now, we didn’t get any offers and failed to win that negotiation. Practicing your questions by giving them some explanation, benefits, and more structural questions would help you achieve a win in negotiation.
Everything needs practice, so start practicing.
It will be worth it for your future deals.
I learned this from Deep Dive with Ali Abdaal.
You can watch it to gain more insight and understanding.
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